Paddygirl's Story

In her own words, Paddygirl would like to tell you her story.


Hi Blackberry Therapist and all that read my story.First, I want to thank you for giving me a place to tell my story. We all need therapy of one kind or another. But, since the purchase of my BB in August 08, I am more in need of help than I thought.

Prior to the BB entering my life, I wouldn't say my life was normal, but it was mine. I managed my time, work, family, and all the chores that go along with it.

I enjoyed going out with friends and meeting up with family occasionally. I kept connected by phone or email. I use to love to read in the evenings before bed (everything from self-help books to nice juicy novels). I was heavily involved with many outside activities from sports, theatre, skiing, and many Irish clubs.

Don't get me wrong. It was not the ideal life. Many hardships and lonely moments as well.

I was at a crossroads in my life. Wanting and looking forward to a better future, but stuck in a place that was not bringing me joy.

Then in July of 08, a good friend and colleague introduced me the BB Messenger. I had a BB for work, and thought it was good for emails, phone calls, and searching the net for directions. I thought the messenger thingy was the coolest invention. Mind you, I have always been technically challenged.

I love my friend/colleague dearly. But, there is part of me that curses her daily for every introducing me to the BB Messenger. And, there is another part of me that wants to kiss her feet, for introducing me to a world that I didn't know existed.

Today, 6 months later. I am truly a BB Addict. The BB as become not just an addition to my life, it is my life. The experiences that I have had in the short time of ownership have been life altering.

I have had some bad experiences with unsavory characters (I think we all have). But mostly, I have made some terrific new friends and kept up with old friends.

I am also one of those who fell in love with a BB buddy. It was not something I planned, nor would I recommend to anyone. But, you find this one person, that seems to relate to you in every way. You look forward to waking up in the morning and seeing the smiley light up with a message from him. You are looking at your BB every hour of every minute during your day (whether at work or home) hoping that he is thinking of you. The relationship becomes so real, that it is really no different than falling in love with a "real" person. I say real person, because I never met the one I fell in love with. I never touched him, or kissed him. But, I fell in love with him. Now you ask any non-BB person, and they would call me crazy. But, I can't be the only one out there who this has happened too. For over 2 months I was carried away to a place that was not my reality. It was magical, for awhile. Then like all good things, it ended. It had to end, it was never going anywhere. His reality and my reality were never going to be our reality (for several reasons). I am still crushed, because more than loosing someone that "I thought" loved me, I lost a BB friend. The one person I shared things with, that I didn't share with anyone. There wasn't a day that he did not make me feel special with his words.

Now, as I reflect back on that experience, I have learned many things 1) Words are just words. Anyone can type them, doesn't mean they are true. 2) Don't take things so seriously. This is "social networking", not Match.com, 3) If they tell you they are unhappy in their marriage, chances are they are full of shit. 4) Learn to delete when someone is rude. 5) Make your fellow BB buddies giggle and feel good throughout the day. Because in the end we are all this to make friends, and be entertained (some more than others).

Thank you BB Therapist for listening to my story. I have many more that are worth a laugh and maybe someday I will share them too.

Faithfully your BB Buddy,Paddygirl